B'H
We need to understand that technology has outstripped emotional intelligence and that children need to be equipped with deal with things such as cyber bullying. Having been a victim of people who have published untruths and frankly disturbing things on the net about me, as an adult I found it hurtful enough. Goodness knows how we can expect vulnerable teens to deal with it. Teenagers and even younger kids are very much growing and developing their self image and they need positive self appraisal from their peers and their teachers and their parents to fight the negativity of comments made in 'fun' or malice on a public website like facebook. This is something we need to deal with in schools and at home and the general public perception MUST be that negative hurtful comments are NOT SMART, they are DANGEROUS.
Sympathies to the family of this poor child and also the bullies should take care. One day you may be the victim and your own medicine will be dealt to you. Kindness and compassion is much more worthwhile to nurture in yourself. What does bullying get you? A few momentary cheap thills at the expense of some other person and that may end up destroying a person's life. Bullying does not have to be violent and brutal screaming or shouting or even smacking someone. It can be the acid of negative comments dropped on someone day after day, eroding that person's self respect and positive self image. We humans are social animals and we need the approval and support of others. Whether we are the cleaner or the head honcho of an organisation we need to know we are doing ok in life.
Catherine RIP we should try to ensure that others do not follow you in your path of despair and ensure that kids are supportive of one another and not ripping each other down.
http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/more-news/save-our-kids-from-bullying/story-fn7x8me2-1226285571779
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Monday, February 27, 2012
Reflections on Archbishop Hickey, Dr Kerryn Phelps and Political Futures
B'H
Just watched a very interesting clip from Sunrise which must have been in the last few days. Apparently Archbishop Hickey from Western Australia has come out and stated that children deserve to be raised in a conventional family situation and they have the right to a lifestyle that is the norm rather than the alternative such as a same sex family situation.
Sunrise interviewed Dr Kerryn Phelps (yes, the high profile doctor who came out as gay many years ago) and a gentleman in Canberra from the Australian Christian Lobby. The man spoke a lot of sense about how the gay lobby is demonising people like Margaret Court and the Archbishop who 'dare' to speak out against the aggressive stance of the gay and lesbian lobby group for same sex marriage. You have to realise that those of the gay and lesbian lobby who do speak out and even if they are highly intelligent and intellectual people, they have an agenda, which is to legitimise same sex or gay marriage. However they are afraid, very afraid because they know ultimately deep down within themselves, their life style is not normal and it is not ideal for children to be raised with two people of the same sex in the sort of physical relationship that normally happens between a man and a woman within the bounds of a legally sanctioned marriage relationship. Most of us are tolerant and accepting of people and people's differences, but what we do not like is the aggressive and angry push by the gay and lesbian groups to make us feel that somehow a man and a woman in a relationship is 'not ideal'. This is what the good Dr Phelps implies, when she starts talking about all the woes of children being in foster care which is as she states 'only from heterosexual relationships gone wrong. It does not happen in gay relationships? Has any research been carried out here? She does not have an ideal record either and how is her relationship with her children been? Is she a good role model of a mother figure, I do wonder?
Her conclusions, or the conclusions she invites us rather forcefully to arrive at, are erronous because her whole premise is based on both a manipulation of statistics and assumption after assumption. She wilefully ignores the fact that there are many wonderful and happy marriages with children being raised by heterosexual couples who are enjoying good childhoods. I resent the gay lobby pushing the same sex marriage barrow on the premise that it is the 'ideal' which is what they would have us believe, and they do belittle and scream down anyone who believes that same sex marriage is not ideal. It is enough already. Most of us are tolerant and accepting of gay people but do not believe that gay or same sex marriage is appropriate. We do not want to be bullied into having to accept something that we do not believe in or believe is right, but by the same token, we can be accepting of the relationships of gay men and women who are together, the same way we can accept that there are de facto heterosexual unions. Marriage requires certain things apart from commitment and to be honest one of the prime requisites will always be that it involves two people of oppposite genders, not the same genders.
Well Julia has been reaffirmed as leader and I believe that Kev is on the back benches but not gone. They will lose the next election big time but the face off with the Liberals may not be between Julia and Tony but between Julia and Malcolm Turnbull and he is most likely to win and win decisively. Even if Tony Abbot faces off against Julia, he will win. The ALP have done too much damage.
The least that either party can do is put money back into two sectors of the country 'EDUCATION and HEALTH the two sectors which Jeff Kennett merrily decimated in his term as Victorian Premier all those years back.
Just watched a very interesting clip from Sunrise which must have been in the last few days. Apparently Archbishop Hickey from Western Australia has come out and stated that children deserve to be raised in a conventional family situation and they have the right to a lifestyle that is the norm rather than the alternative such as a same sex family situation.
Sunrise interviewed Dr Kerryn Phelps (yes, the high profile doctor who came out as gay many years ago) and a gentleman in Canberra from the Australian Christian Lobby. The man spoke a lot of sense about how the gay lobby is demonising people like Margaret Court and the Archbishop who 'dare' to speak out against the aggressive stance of the gay and lesbian lobby group for same sex marriage. You have to realise that those of the gay and lesbian lobby who do speak out and even if they are highly intelligent and intellectual people, they have an agenda, which is to legitimise same sex or gay marriage. However they are afraid, very afraid because they know ultimately deep down within themselves, their life style is not normal and it is not ideal for children to be raised with two people of the same sex in the sort of physical relationship that normally happens between a man and a woman within the bounds of a legally sanctioned marriage relationship. Most of us are tolerant and accepting of people and people's differences, but what we do not like is the aggressive and angry push by the gay and lesbian groups to make us feel that somehow a man and a woman in a relationship is 'not ideal'. This is what the good Dr Phelps implies, when she starts talking about all the woes of children being in foster care which is as she states 'only from heterosexual relationships gone wrong. It does not happen in gay relationships? Has any research been carried out here? She does not have an ideal record either and how is her relationship with her children been? Is she a good role model of a mother figure, I do wonder?
Her conclusions, or the conclusions she invites us rather forcefully to arrive at, are erronous because her whole premise is based on both a manipulation of statistics and assumption after assumption. She wilefully ignores the fact that there are many wonderful and happy marriages with children being raised by heterosexual couples who are enjoying good childhoods. I resent the gay lobby pushing the same sex marriage barrow on the premise that it is the 'ideal' which is what they would have us believe, and they do belittle and scream down anyone who believes that same sex marriage is not ideal. It is enough already. Most of us are tolerant and accepting of gay people but do not believe that gay or same sex marriage is appropriate. We do not want to be bullied into having to accept something that we do not believe in or believe is right, but by the same token, we can be accepting of the relationships of gay men and women who are together, the same way we can accept that there are de facto heterosexual unions. Marriage requires certain things apart from commitment and to be honest one of the prime requisites will always be that it involves two people of oppposite genders, not the same genders.
Well Julia has been reaffirmed as leader and I believe that Kev is on the back benches but not gone. They will lose the next election big time but the face off with the Liberals may not be between Julia and Tony but between Julia and Malcolm Turnbull and he is most likely to win and win decisively. Even if Tony Abbot faces off against Julia, he will win. The ALP have done too much damage.
The least that either party can do is put money back into two sectors of the country 'EDUCATION and HEALTH the two sectors which Jeff Kennett merrily decimated in his term as Victorian Premier all those years back.
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Most of US are born different to the majority
B'H
We are all individuals when it boils down to it. We are all born different and I would hazard a guess that there is not many people who are clones of others in this world although some people do try to create clones of themselves through their children or grandchildren or people who are close to them through work or a friendship circle. They feel powerful if they can influence and control the thinking and actions of others. They feel some how justified in being if others will follow their way of thinking. I actually like people who stand up for what they believe in and while tolerant of others beliefs as we all must be, they do not seek to destroy another because of their beliefs.
I believe very strongly that the Creator of us all put each and every one of us here in this existence with a mission in mind to make this a better world for us all. We have to find our particular mission and the medium through which we can best express it's message. Hopefully it is a positive message of growth, personal development and giving.
When we come across someone different, we must try to take the time to understand that person and not stick labels on them that later are hard to remove from our mind. I love getting to the inner core of individuals I meet and understanding who they are and watching those people develop over time into great people. They start out as great little human beings and so I should say, greater people.
Some people who you would expect to cope with difference cannot cope. Then others who you would least expect to cope, show kindness and compassion that you did not even suspect lay within their emotional range. Some times you have to try to be a catalyst for change for that person. It can be painful and it cannot always work. You may lose a friend. It may mean that you have gone in different directions and that is still OK.
It has to be. In this egocentric generation there are a lot of very me centred individuals. I guess there had to be after a generation that was all give, give, give away style and this new generation - the baby boomers (which Kevin Rudd and Julia Gillard are born into) grandchildren who are in high school now may balance it all out and be the pragmatists of the new leadership in the future. What do they think, I wonder, to see these leadership battles of an elected government ripping into each other and behaving in a less than honourable fashion on both sides I might add.
I like balance and I hope one day I can be a philanthropist and support a few of my favourite causes. The main one is education of equal opportunity for all. I would one day love to see a couple of public boarding schools for children who have awkward home lives. That is rich you might say, coming from someone who spent six years in boarding schools and loathed every moment of it. I would have rather completed my education at home. I envied day pupils. However I can see for some kids it could be a blessing.
I would love to see a boarding school in the other reaches of say Kilmore or Sheperton for Indigenous kids and have it run by an indigenous Education co-operative with a structured curriculum that would give indigenous kids and not just the indigenous kids but non-indigenous kids who wanted to learn about the indigenous cultures a true education into the indigenous approach to learning and life. Maybe it is already happening. I hope so. The way to value differences in people and cultures is through one thing - education and a correct education and depth of learning breeds understanding and tolerance we would hope.
Think of how very many different people have enriched the world. We were not meant to all be clones or clowns. Only through loving ourselves do we love others and can appreciate and value the differences in indviduals and their talents what ever they may be.
We are all individuals when it boils down to it. We are all born different and I would hazard a guess that there is not many people who are clones of others in this world although some people do try to create clones of themselves through their children or grandchildren or people who are close to them through work or a friendship circle. They feel powerful if they can influence and control the thinking and actions of others. They feel some how justified in being if others will follow their way of thinking. I actually like people who stand up for what they believe in and while tolerant of others beliefs as we all must be, they do not seek to destroy another because of their beliefs.
I believe very strongly that the Creator of us all put each and every one of us here in this existence with a mission in mind to make this a better world for us all. We have to find our particular mission and the medium through which we can best express it's message. Hopefully it is a positive message of growth, personal development and giving.
When we come across someone different, we must try to take the time to understand that person and not stick labels on them that later are hard to remove from our mind. I love getting to the inner core of individuals I meet and understanding who they are and watching those people develop over time into great people. They start out as great little human beings and so I should say, greater people.
Some people who you would expect to cope with difference cannot cope. Then others who you would least expect to cope, show kindness and compassion that you did not even suspect lay within their emotional range. Some times you have to try to be a catalyst for change for that person. It can be painful and it cannot always work. You may lose a friend. It may mean that you have gone in different directions and that is still OK.
It has to be. In this egocentric generation there are a lot of very me centred individuals. I guess there had to be after a generation that was all give, give, give away style and this new generation - the baby boomers (which Kevin Rudd and Julia Gillard are born into) grandchildren who are in high school now may balance it all out and be the pragmatists of the new leadership in the future. What do they think, I wonder, to see these leadership battles of an elected government ripping into each other and behaving in a less than honourable fashion on both sides I might add.
I like balance and I hope one day I can be a philanthropist and support a few of my favourite causes. The main one is education of equal opportunity for all. I would one day love to see a couple of public boarding schools for children who have awkward home lives. That is rich you might say, coming from someone who spent six years in boarding schools and loathed every moment of it. I would have rather completed my education at home. I envied day pupils. However I can see for some kids it could be a blessing.
I would love to see a boarding school in the other reaches of say Kilmore or Sheperton for Indigenous kids and have it run by an indigenous Education co-operative with a structured curriculum that would give indigenous kids and not just the indigenous kids but non-indigenous kids who wanted to learn about the indigenous cultures a true education into the indigenous approach to learning and life. Maybe it is already happening. I hope so. The way to value differences in people and cultures is through one thing - education and a correct education and depth of learning breeds understanding and tolerance we would hope.
Think of how very many different people have enriched the world. We were not meant to all be clones or clowns. Only through loving ourselves do we love others and can appreciate and value the differences in indviduals and their talents what ever they may be.
Saturday, February 25, 2012
A busy Sunday
B'H
Son and friend taken to the pool for a dip as it is the third day in a row that temperatures have been about 35 C. They had a great time. Two little boys 'just wanna have fun'. Got them out after an hour and a half. There is one thing about being in a pool, you feel so much cooler after you get out. It cools the whole body down.
Now both boys are are chilling out together at the friend's place and I have some time to myself which is well needed. Both this kid and Nir get on so well as they should and they are both around the same age. It makes me so glad that he has a friend to visit around his age and it will be good for both kids. I hope some of this kid's maturity rubs off on Nir. His English is good and he is a smart little boy. He has a couple of conversations with me at the pool and I found him very mature in the way he talked about the length of the pool and the depth and how he had to be careful how to dive and at what depth and how some one dived from a 30 metres up into 12 cm of water etc etc. His measurements might have been a bit off but he was a good conversationalist. I did not want to imagine what might have happened to someone who dived from 30 metres up into 12 cm of water. Both boys had a great time and hopefully are still having a good time and letting his mother focus on her work.
A friend's neighbour's husband passed away yesterday and it is very sad. This intense heat is hard on older people and he was a holocaust survivor. I feel very saddened. I was going to go to the leveya but do not want to leave Nir with someone but will go to be 'menachem ovel' during the shiva.
The country's leaders are tearing themselves apart. So what else is new? That was a long time in the offing. When Julia Gillard replaced or deposed Rudd, any fool with half a brain could see what was going to happen there. He was out for revenge right from the word go. A very ambitious and nasty man is our Kevin 07. The worst mistake she made as a leader was to allow him into any position in cabinet or any portfolio what so ever. If she had relegated him to the back benches for evermore he might have written a spiteful book like Mark Latham and looked an idiot after it was seen for what it was and resigned and lived on his parliamentary pension. People like Rudd needed to be completely crushed out of political life or they come back at you like a snake with many heads. You don't give them a chance to cause more mayhem. The ego clashes in the government are astounding. These people were elected to do a job, not rip the country apart.
I for one thnk we need more selfless people in public office. Malcolm Turnbull will be our next Prime Minister perhaps. I certainly hope so. He does not appear to have half the ego of these two fools.
Son and friend taken to the pool for a dip as it is the third day in a row that temperatures have been about 35 C. They had a great time. Two little boys 'just wanna have fun'. Got them out after an hour and a half. There is one thing about being in a pool, you feel so much cooler after you get out. It cools the whole body down.
Now both boys are are chilling out together at the friend's place and I have some time to myself which is well needed. Both this kid and Nir get on so well as they should and they are both around the same age. It makes me so glad that he has a friend to visit around his age and it will be good for both kids. I hope some of this kid's maturity rubs off on Nir. His English is good and he is a smart little boy. He has a couple of conversations with me at the pool and I found him very mature in the way he talked about the length of the pool and the depth and how he had to be careful how to dive and at what depth and how some one dived from a 30 metres up into 12 cm of water etc etc. His measurements might have been a bit off but he was a good conversationalist. I did not want to imagine what might have happened to someone who dived from 30 metres up into 12 cm of water. Both boys had a great time and hopefully are still having a good time and letting his mother focus on her work.
A friend's neighbour's husband passed away yesterday and it is very sad. This intense heat is hard on older people and he was a holocaust survivor. I feel very saddened. I was going to go to the leveya but do not want to leave Nir with someone but will go to be 'menachem ovel' during the shiva.
The country's leaders are tearing themselves apart. So what else is new? That was a long time in the offing. When Julia Gillard replaced or deposed Rudd, any fool with half a brain could see what was going to happen there. He was out for revenge right from the word go. A very ambitious and nasty man is our Kevin 07. The worst mistake she made as a leader was to allow him into any position in cabinet or any portfolio what so ever. If she had relegated him to the back benches for evermore he might have written a spiteful book like Mark Latham and looked an idiot after it was seen for what it was and resigned and lived on his parliamentary pension. People like Rudd needed to be completely crushed out of political life or they come back at you like a snake with many heads. You don't give them a chance to cause more mayhem. The ego clashes in the government are astounding. These people were elected to do a job, not rip the country apart.
I for one thnk we need more selfless people in public office. Malcolm Turnbull will be our next Prime Minister perhaps. I certainly hope so. He does not appear to have half the ego of these two fools.
Monday, February 20, 2012
Bits and Pieces from around the traps
B'H
Bad news first.
So some gutless atheist has thrown his kid off the story bridge and himself as well. I read this with growing anger. A little baby boy for crying out aloud, your own kid - your flesh and blood, you throw him off a bridge. To be brutally honest, I could not see myself throwing any child off a bridge, no matter how annoying they were. They are kids and you are the adult. A normal adult is fiercely protective of a child.
This self centred egotistical piece of crap mascarading as a father taught at one of Brisbane top boys' school (how do I know because I had two brothers ( I think we had the same mother and father a half a century ago) who were sent to that 'exclusive' boys's school.
Don't ask me to feel all warm and fuzzy sad about a person who commits such a sick act of murder on a hapless toddler and then kills himself. What was this moron thinking? He had a child living with him and obviously did not appreciate his child to the degree that he should have. Anyway the police better turn up some good reason for this loser to do what he did. He has only my contempt and absolute abhorance. I cannot feel any level of sadness except for the baby who had his life so mercilessly cut short. I feel anger and sick to think that a man could do this to his own child. He must have been insane to even think about doing it to any child. When you are a parent, you cannot afford to be a loser. You fight and you fight to the end, the bitter end for your child and you to survive.
http://www.theage.com.au/queensland/churchie-mourns-loss-of-teacher-in-story-bridge-plunge-20120220-1thu6.html
Now this Mikeybear, he's a real sad case. He gets overly obsessive about people he believes are 'anti-gay' or against him and the rest of the Gay Lesbian Lobbyists. Rabbi Shimon Cowen is still in the sights of this morally deficient, ill educated, emotionally retarded, deluded wannabe Oscar Wilde of the 21st century. Troubled and all as he was, Oscar Wilde I am refering to, not MB, Oscar was a funny guy with a real sharp eye for detail and social mannerisms and furthermore he could write.
Mikeybear can only rant, rant, rant and rave, rant and rave and frothe at the mouth. It is almost as if he has swallowed a five litre tub of green dishwashing liquid. It would probably take more than that to clean him up.
http://mikeybear.wordpress.com/2012/02/20/rabbi-dr-shimon-cowen-monash-university-alumnus/
Honestly, I have to say, the fact that this guy sets himself up as a self styled saviour of 'gay youth' concerns me no end. People like him are really dangerous around vulnerable youth and people like him are those who confuse already confused young people even further. He appears extremely manipulative and quite honestly I would not want him talking to young people about 'gay' issues. We are making too much of this anyway. People need to be left alone to get along with their lives. Do we really need people like him steering already vulnerable kids into directions that they would not have otherwise taken. I have decided to do one of the AEU workshops in this issue because I want to investigate just what angle these people are taking in talking to vulnerable kids. There is a whole lot of workshops on it through the AEU this year.Kids do not need to be told that they are gay or not gay. Most kids do work it out themselves, believe it or not. Most of us have to remember we are not psychologists and I have found myself not agreeing entirely with them either. It is all so subjective and we have thrown out clear thinking skills to our loss.
Presenting a gay lifestyle as the attractive and avant garde of the 21 st century is not what we should be allowing. Yes there are gay people and they are a fact of life but we are not into creating a wider gay community for whatever reasons. Gay people exist and we treat them like other human beings, respectfully one would hope. However, what happens when those individuals, some of them, treat others with complete disrespect and slander them? These people should be treated like any other person who breaks the law.
Mikeybear has become an embarrassment unto himself and those around him.
Who will be next in the sights of this pro gay rights crusader on his tired white neddy nag carrying his broken sword, wearing tattered leggings and with an untidy sprogget of hair sticking out from under his mishapen helmet, his battered and dented shield banging against his leg as he sits astride a worn saddle with horse hair poking out from the seat and broken stirrups? He faces off with a dragon that can singe his breathe with a whisper of sound and who will incinerate him with a half supressed yawn.
Only fools do not know when they are beaten and when to give up. Mikeybear, you are a fool and a dangerous irrational one at that. Take a chill pill and for goodness sake get some counselling. Please do not attempt to counsel others about that which you know nought. Leave it to the able professionals.
Bad news first.
So some gutless atheist has thrown his kid off the story bridge and himself as well. I read this with growing anger. A little baby boy for crying out aloud, your own kid - your flesh and blood, you throw him off a bridge. To be brutally honest, I could not see myself throwing any child off a bridge, no matter how annoying they were. They are kids and you are the adult. A normal adult is fiercely protective of a child.
This self centred egotistical piece of crap mascarading as a father taught at one of Brisbane top boys' school (how do I know because I had two brothers ( I think we had the same mother and father a half a century ago) who were sent to that 'exclusive' boys's school.
Don't ask me to feel all warm and fuzzy sad about a person who commits such a sick act of murder on a hapless toddler and then kills himself. What was this moron thinking? He had a child living with him and obviously did not appreciate his child to the degree that he should have. Anyway the police better turn up some good reason for this loser to do what he did. He has only my contempt and absolute abhorance. I cannot feel any level of sadness except for the baby who had his life so mercilessly cut short. I feel anger and sick to think that a man could do this to his own child. He must have been insane to even think about doing it to any child. When you are a parent, you cannot afford to be a loser. You fight and you fight to the end, the bitter end for your child and you to survive.
http://www.theage.com.au/queensland/churchie-mourns-loss-of-teacher-in-story-bridge-plunge-20120220-1thu6.html
Now this Mikeybear, he's a real sad case. He gets overly obsessive about people he believes are 'anti-gay' or against him and the rest of the Gay Lesbian Lobbyists. Rabbi Shimon Cowen is still in the sights of this morally deficient, ill educated, emotionally retarded, deluded wannabe Oscar Wilde of the 21st century. Troubled and all as he was, Oscar Wilde I am refering to, not MB, Oscar was a funny guy with a real sharp eye for detail and social mannerisms and furthermore he could write.
Mikeybear can only rant, rant, rant and rave, rant and rave and frothe at the mouth. It is almost as if he has swallowed a five litre tub of green dishwashing liquid. It would probably take more than that to clean him up.
http://mikeybear.wordpress.com/2012/02/20/rabbi-dr-shimon-cowen-monash-university-alumnus/
Honestly, I have to say, the fact that this guy sets himself up as a self styled saviour of 'gay youth' concerns me no end. People like him are really dangerous around vulnerable youth and people like him are those who confuse already confused young people even further. He appears extremely manipulative and quite honestly I would not want him talking to young people about 'gay' issues. We are making too much of this anyway. People need to be left alone to get along with their lives. Do we really need people like him steering already vulnerable kids into directions that they would not have otherwise taken. I have decided to do one of the AEU workshops in this issue because I want to investigate just what angle these people are taking in talking to vulnerable kids. There is a whole lot of workshops on it through the AEU this year.Kids do not need to be told that they are gay or not gay. Most kids do work it out themselves, believe it or not. Most of us have to remember we are not psychologists and I have found myself not agreeing entirely with them either. It is all so subjective and we have thrown out clear thinking skills to our loss.
Presenting a gay lifestyle as the attractive and avant garde of the 21 st century is not what we should be allowing. Yes there are gay people and they are a fact of life but we are not into creating a wider gay community for whatever reasons. Gay people exist and we treat them like other human beings, respectfully one would hope. However, what happens when those individuals, some of them, treat others with complete disrespect and slander them? These people should be treated like any other person who breaks the law.
Mikeybear has become an embarrassment unto himself and those around him.
Who will be next in the sights of this pro gay rights crusader on his tired white neddy nag carrying his broken sword, wearing tattered leggings and with an untidy sprogget of hair sticking out from under his mishapen helmet, his battered and dented shield banging against his leg as he sits astride a worn saddle with horse hair poking out from the seat and broken stirrups? He faces off with a dragon that can singe his breathe with a whisper of sound and who will incinerate him with a half supressed yawn.
Only fools do not know when they are beaten and when to give up. Mikeybear, you are a fool and a dangerous irrational one at that. Take a chill pill and for goodness sake get some counselling. Please do not attempt to counsel others about that which you know nought. Leave it to the able professionals.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
This guy is amazing. What he says has so much truth
B"H
I am a fan, devotee call it what you will of many different people, philosophers and thinkers in this world and I have to say, the more I read and listen to this guy, the more I like what he says. A gentle and holy message of hope in a rather vicious and heartless world. Manis Freidman - a very old soul and together in his thinking, wise.
http://howtoraisehealthychildren.com/part1.html
I am a fan, devotee call it what you will of many different people, philosophers and thinkers in this world and I have to say, the more I read and listen to this guy, the more I like what he says. A gentle and holy message of hope in a rather vicious and heartless world. Manis Freidman - a very old soul and together in his thinking, wise.
http://howtoraisehealthychildren.com/part1.html
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Le havdil beyin kodesh ve hol
B’H
Le havdil beyin kodesh ve hol
‘To separate between the holy and the mundane or every day’.
At the end of Shabbat, we say these words to separate the
holiness of the Shabbat and the mundane weekdays in Havdala - in Hebrew the
holy lashon the word Havdala means to divide or to separate. To make something
special one sets it apart from that which would taint or detract from its
holiness or specialness. Shabbat – our holy day of rest is different from the other
days of the week in that our focus is on spirituality, connecting with Hashem
and refinement of character in many ways. We reflect and study holy texts and pray
as a congregation and a family.
While saying Havdala tonight, I had this flash of
inspirational thought. I often do have these amazing insights into life and
issues while studying Torah or texts and even while praying. It is kind of hard when
you have these marvellous insights on Shabbat and can’t write them down for
future reference.
When we are giving so much attention to the gay lobby groups
about their push for ‘same sex marriage rites’ to be acknowledged as legal
marriages, we are ignoring some really obvious facts. First marriage is when
two people enter an institution of holiness and they consecrate each to the
other and this can only happen if one of the pair happens to be one sex and the
other the other sex. Adam was created first and Eve or Hava was made from the
substance of his rib, from his essence to stand opposite him, to be his help
mate. She is the other half of his soul,
both apart from him, yet of him, the same way when we have a week of seven days
and one is set apart as holy – a day of rest. People are married for a reason
and usually with G-D ‘s help to be married for the term of their time on this
earth. Yes it happens that sometimes there are divorces but in a stable
society, they are few because children of the generations after are bought up
wisely and to listen to the counsel of their parents in choosing a partner in
life or if the parent is not well versed in matching, someone like a shadhan or matchmaker is
found to do it for the parents.
Choosing a life partner is too important a task to be left
up to the children to manage on their own.
Marriage – real marriage is not about love. It is about commitment to a lifelong
contractual arrangement between a man and a woman and their families
ultimately. The love and affection is developed over time and through the commitment of the two people. It has a spiritual dimension to it that most people in Western
societies ignore or are unaware of this dimension. Most marriages in Western
countries are based on purely physical attraction - lust based or the idea that one can
marry into a family for material comfort and wealth. In the latter case, some
find themselves unhappy but the rewards of staying are greater than going and
many opt to stay.
A union between two men or two women cannot equal or be
viewed in the light of that of a man and a woman for the obvious reasons as
regards procreation, but also in the terms of light and darkness, maturity and
personal growth of the individuals concerned. Yes we can respect their rights
to enjoying a happy and fulfilled relationship even though we do not necessarily
agree with the nature of their union, our society is supportive of their right to have that union recognised and that should be
enough. Frankly they are often like the child who wants to go to court to
fight to have the driving age brought down to 12 years . Most states determine
that eighteen is the age of maturity as regards driving a car. At eighteen years of age, the majority of people do have some maturity of judgement that enables them to drive safely, one would hope, but at times such is not the case. They have to develop it over time and with experience.
A good man of letters and a Rabbi is maligned again and again
on the internet by a person who is a self styled crusader for ‘Gay Rights’ and
frankly I just want to say ‘Oh for GOODNESS SAKE grow up!’ His immature sniping and whining resonates again and again. If we were to judge all gay people by this person, then I believe there would be a lot more prejudice against gay people because of the way this person behaves. He attacks people, slanders people and misrepresents their life situation and publishes it all over the internet. It is truly attention seeking behaviour of a rather unsavoury nature.
Now this Rabbi, along with many others, is being blamed for young gay people suiciding
and quite frankly it is not about their weaknesses as there are weak heterosexuals
as well, but it is about the personal flaws and personality of some that
may have led to their journey into this dim world. Gay people are often gay
because their is some weakness or link in their psyches, not because of ill
treatment or worst. It remains to be seen whether parliament will continue to
waste their time on this. Maybe there are supposed 'gay' youth who do suicide because of people like this crusader for gay rights Mikeybear. Just imagine a young vulnerable person having a bit of a gender identity crisis and maybe because of personality clashes in their family they are suffering a bit of depression and anxiety.
Along comes Mikeybear. 'Oh, dear, the problem is that you are gay and misunderstood'. The kid may not be gay but just experiencing a normal adolescent stage in development on the way to forming a healthy heterosexual identity. So now this child feels pressured into having a 'gay' experience by the more experienced homosexual person who is indulging in quite predatory sexual behaviour.
Now imagine after having such an experience, this young person may feel deep down that something is not right. They may want to extricate themselves from the experience and the person who has led them down this path of sexual experimentation into deviant behaviour, but they become caught up in the gay culture and social milieu and they feel pressure to be 'gay' and they feel not right about being homosexual.
I have seen such a thing happen. Many many years ago in the 1980's when I returned from Israel I saw a friend who had just such pressure put on her by the gay community and I tried to help her. I remember when she decided to leave a relationship with another gay woman and live by herself. She had subtle, but constant harrassment and pressure. She told me that she felt she was not really gay but it was a stage she had to go through. I could only be supportive as a heterosexual friend. I was glad that at some stage she entered a relationship with a man, who unfortunately was not Jewish, but that was better than being in a series of relationships with gay women mostly not Jewish who were all very dysfunctional and actually quite strange. Later I met her last lesbian partner in a video store who informed me that she too was not gay, but now experiencing 'straight' life and I wondered just what was it that led these women into this dysfunctional and strange lifestyle.
I think for some people this would lead to their suicides rather than pressure from the outside of the normal heterosexual community. These people may feel immense shame and anguish and feel that they cannot have a normal sexual relationship with a spouse because for them, intimacy is associated with disgust and shame. It is recorded that often boys at British boarding schools do experiment and later go on to lead normal heterosexual lives with their wives and often a mistress or two. Many people in the normal mainstream society are very understanding and sensitive to the emotional needs of homosexual people for love and acceptance. Truly gay people that is.
We have to separate between the holy and sacred elements of living and those that are not so kosher. In doing so, we must be honest. We cannot allow deviant behaviour to be called normal or become accepted as normal, because honestly it is not. We can always be sensitive to and accepting of gay people as human beings and be supportive of their social rights, but we must not allow them as a vocal and aggressive minority hi jack society and social values. That is why any push for same sex marriages to be legalised and on par with the institution of marriage between a man and a woman must fail.
Along comes Mikeybear. 'Oh, dear, the problem is that you are gay and misunderstood'. The kid may not be gay but just experiencing a normal adolescent stage in development on the way to forming a healthy heterosexual identity. So now this child feels pressured into having a 'gay' experience by the more experienced homosexual person who is indulging in quite predatory sexual behaviour.
Now imagine after having such an experience, this young person may feel deep down that something is not right. They may want to extricate themselves from the experience and the person who has led them down this path of sexual experimentation into deviant behaviour, but they become caught up in the gay culture and social milieu and they feel pressure to be 'gay' and they feel not right about being homosexual.
I have seen such a thing happen. Many many years ago in the 1980's when I returned from Israel I saw a friend who had just such pressure put on her by the gay community and I tried to help her. I remember when she decided to leave a relationship with another gay woman and live by herself. She had subtle, but constant harrassment and pressure. She told me that she felt she was not really gay but it was a stage she had to go through. I could only be supportive as a heterosexual friend. I was glad that at some stage she entered a relationship with a man, who unfortunately was not Jewish, but that was better than being in a series of relationships with gay women mostly not Jewish who were all very dysfunctional and actually quite strange. Later I met her last lesbian partner in a video store who informed me that she too was not gay, but now experiencing 'straight' life and I wondered just what was it that led these women into this dysfunctional and strange lifestyle.
I think for some people this would lead to their suicides rather than pressure from the outside of the normal heterosexual community. These people may feel immense shame and anguish and feel that they cannot have a normal sexual relationship with a spouse because for them, intimacy is associated with disgust and shame. It is recorded that often boys at British boarding schools do experiment and later go on to lead normal heterosexual lives with their wives and often a mistress or two. Many people in the normal mainstream society are very understanding and sensitive to the emotional needs of homosexual people for love and acceptance. Truly gay people that is.
We have to separate between the holy and sacred elements of living and those that are not so kosher. In doing so, we must be honest. We cannot allow deviant behaviour to be called normal or become accepted as normal, because honestly it is not. We can always be sensitive to and accepting of gay people as human beings and be supportive of their social rights, but we must not allow them as a vocal and aggressive minority hi jack society and social values. That is why any push for same sex marriages to be legalised and on par with the institution of marriage between a man and a woman must fail.
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